With Love
The heart of my approach is your family and child, rather than any particular method. My aim is to find solutions that align with your parenting style, values, norms, and your child's biological needs. By creating a loving and responsive environment, I help your child feel safe and secure, allowing them to gradually learn to fall asleep and stay asleep on their own.
I don't offer quick fixes or pre-made plans. Instead, I work with you to create a tailored plan that suits your family situation and feels appropriate to you.
I incorporate positive parenting and mindfulness principles on a regular basis.
I am transparent about what is feasible and realistic in your unique circumstances, and strive to always be honest with you.
The C.A.L.M.E.R. Approach
Collaborate for solutions
We work together to find the best solution through problem solving, clear and precise communication to ensure the best possible outcome. Where mutual respect and willingness to work towards a common goal is necessary.
Acceptance and recognition
We should accept and appreciate our children for who they are, including ourselves, the parents, without judging or trying to change them. We should also recognize the situation we are in, even if it's not ideal.
Learning and improving
We get better by learning and we work together to find the best solution through problem solving, clear and precise communication to ensure the best possible outcome. Where mutual respect and willingness to work towards a common goal is necessary.
If we stay open to learning and improving ourselves, we can gain more knowledge and make progress towards being excellent. But remember, it's not necessary to be the ‘’perfect’’ parent as that doesn’t exist.
Meet and balance needs
We try to find a balance between our own desires and those of our children, without giving up our own needs.
Empathise
We seek to deeply understand and share the unique feelings or experiences of our children. It involves putting yourself in your child's shoes and trying to see things from their perspective, to feel what they feel and understand why they feel that way.
It allows us to connect with our children on a deeper level and to respond to their needs in a more compassionate and meaningful way. We may not be capable of empathy in the moment, but it is always possible in time.
Respond with compassion
We seek to respond rather than react, using compassion as our driving force in our interactions shows that we care about their feelings. This can help to build trust and strengthen the relationship between you as the parent and your child.
Fostering healthy sleep habits
Everyone thinks of a sleep consultant when you are at your wits’ end and you have been battling sleep for months. Especially in the first few months you can do a lot to optimize your baby's sleep and to lay a good foundation for healthy sleep habits for years to come. Check out my newborn sleep guide to set you up for success!